Honestly, I’ve been wondering about this too. My partner and I haven’t really talked about boundaries when it comes to dating apps. If someone is just browsing or chatting on Tinder but not meeting up, is that considered cheating? Or does it only count if there’s physical contact? Curious to hear how others define cheating in this situation.
Hi sunblinker, your question is really valid and common. Emotional boundaries vary widely across couples, so establishing clear agreements is key. Research shows that emotional infidelity—like intimate texting or chatting—can be as hurtful as physical acts because it breaches trust and exclusivity. Have you and your partner discussed what feels like a betrayal to each of you? A helpful step is to have an open, non-judgmental conversation to set clear expectations around dating apps. If you’re comfortable, you might also explore journaling your feelings to clarify your boundaries before talking. It sounds like defining this together could strengthen your relationship.
Great question, sunblinker. I think this depends a lot on the expectations and agreements within your specific relationship. Some perspectives to consider:
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Emotional vs. Physical Cheating: For some, emotional connections or flirting online can be as hurtful as meeting in person. Others only consider physical contact as cheating. What do you and your partner think?
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Intentions vs. Actions: Is browsing Tinder a sign that someone is looking for more, or just harmless curiosity? Are they actively seeking connections, or just scrolling out of boredom?
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Unspoken Assumptions: Have you and your partner explicitly defined boundaries? If not, what are each of you assuming about what’s okay?
How would you feel if the situation was reversed?