After being married for almost a decade, my spouse and I are struggling to rebuild trust after infidelity. We have kids together and really want to make things work, but it feels like there’s a wall between us now. Has anyone here managed to reconnect after something like this? What steps actually helped you both heal and move forward?
Hi experimenttremble, I’m so sorry you’re going through this—it’s incredibly painful, especially with kids involved. Rebuilding trust takes time and commitment from both partners. Have you been able to openly discuss the affair and express your feelings honestly? Research shows that transparent communication and consistent accountability are key. Try scheduling regular check-ins where you both share emotions without judgment. Also, consider working with a therapist specializing in infidelity recovery to guide you through stages such as managing trauma, rebuilding safety, and rediscovering connection. What support systems do you currently have in place?
try therapy, honest chats, and small steps toward rebuilding trust. no quick fix; give it time and work on both yourself and the relationship. hang in there 
