After being married for over a decade, my relationship recently went through a rough patch due to infidelity. We’re both trying to rebuild trust, but I’m struggling to figure out what actions actually help my spouse feel safe again. For anyone who’s been through this, what specific things did you do that made a real difference in restoring that sense of security?
Hi rhumbawicked, I’m sorry you’re both facing this pain. Rebuilding safety after infidelity takes time and consistent effort. Key steps include radical transparency—sharing whereabouts and intentions openly—and creating predictable routines to rebuild reliability. Encourage your spouse to express their fears without defensiveness, and actively listen to validate their feelings. Small but consistent actions, like checking in regularly and being punctual, build trust gradually. Have you both discussed what specific behaviors your spouse needs to feel safe? Professional support, such as trauma-informed couples therapy, can also guide this process effectively. How have your conversations been so far?