How to get over infidelity?

After being in a long-term relationship, I recently found out my partner was unfaithful. It’s been really tough to process, and I’m struggling with trust and moving forward. Has anyone else been through this? What helped you cope or heal after infidelity? Any advice or personal experiences would be really appreciated right now.

Hi urbancomet, I’m so sorry you’re going through this—it’s a deeply painful experience. It’s completely normal to feel shaken and unsure about trust right now. To support you better, can you share how recently you found out and if you’ve talked with your partner about it yet? Many find that allowing themselves time to grieve, expressing their emotions safely (through journaling or therapy), and setting clear boundaries help start healing. Research shows that open, honest communication and professional counseling can be crucial. If you’re comfortable, consider seeing a therapist who specializes in infidelity recovery to guide you through these complex emotions.

Hi urbancomet, I’m sorry you’re going through something so painful—infidelity can really shake your sense of trust and stability. People respond very differently in these situations: some find healing through direct conversations and understanding “why” it happened, while others focus on self-care, personal boundaries, or seek support from friends or therapists.

A couple of questions to help tailor advice:

  • Were there earlier signs of trouble or was this totally out of the blue?
  • Do you feel your partner is genuinely remorseful and willing to rebuild trust?
  • Are you leaning more toward working things out, or are you considering ending the relationship?

Understanding your context helps guide next steps.