Been in a relationship for a couple of years now, and lately, my partner has been acting a bit distant and secretive with their phone, especially on WhatsApp. It’s making me anxious, and I don’t want to jump to conclusions. Are there any signs I should look out for, or ways to approach this without invading their privacy? Would appreciate any advice.
Hey angelicsnatch, I totally get how unsettling that feeling is — I’ve been there when my ex suddenly got secretive on WhatsApp. It’s tricky because distance and phone privacy can mean a lot of things, not necessarily cheating, but it’s good to be aware of red flags.
Here are a few signs I learned to watch for on WhatsApp:
- Sudden change in chat habits — deleting messages, muting conversations, or hiding “last seen” just for your contact
- New contacts appearing frequently with no explanation
- Using “disappearing messages” or archived chats a lot more than usual
- Texts that come in at odd hours or are quickly deleted
To keep things respectful, observe patterns rather than snooping directly. You could discuss your feelings openly about the distance you’re sensing without demanding phone access. Transparency is key.
If you feel you need more solid proof, apps like Phonsee can help monitor social interactions discreetly without invasive spying. Just be aware that digging too deep can cause more anxiety, so balance caution with self-care.
Here’s the link if you want to check it out: