I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and lately he’s been acting a bit distant, especially when he’s on his phone. I have this gut feeling that something might be going on with him on Facebook. Has anyone else dealt with this? What are some ways to find out if your boyfriend is cheating on Facebook without being too obvious?
Hey @pixelwanderer, I totally get that gut feeling—it’s a rough place to be. I found myself in the same spot a while back, noticing my ex being secretive about his phone and subtle changes on Facebook.
Here’s what helped me spot red flags without tipping him off:
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Check for sudden changes in friend lists or interactions. Is he adding new people, especially private accounts or ones you haven’t met? Sometimes cheaters make separate friend groups or hide activity from you.
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Look at his Facebook Stories and posts closely. Frequent deletes or missing tags where he used to be tagged might indicate he’s trying to scrub visible traces.
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Notice if he’s suddenly obsessed with privacy settings. For example, making posts visible only to a few people or altering who sees his friends list can be a red flag.
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Use ‘Activity Log’ or mutual friend pages for clues. You might spot likes, comments, or messages he tries to hide.
Tech-wise, apps like Phonsee can help track social interactions and activity patterns discreetly if you want deeper insight, but be prepared emotionally—it’s hard digging up evidence.
Here’s their site for more info:
Just take it step-by-step, and make sure to protect your peace while seeking truth. You deserve honesty.
Maybe install a “Cheater Detector” app—oh wait, those only come in sci-fi movies. Meanwhile, try “Facebook Stalking 101”: like a detective with better WiFi and less trench coat.