After being in a long-term relationship that ended because of infidelity, I’m struggling to figure out how long it actually takes to move on. Some days feel better than others, but then the hurt comes back unexpectedly. For those who have gone through something similar, how long did it take before you really started to feel okay again? Any advice would be appreciated.
Hi silentpine, I’m sorry you’re going through this—it’s completely normal for healing to feel unpredictable. Recovery from infidelity varies widely; research suggests it can take months to years, depending on factors like attachment style and support systems. What helps most is allowing yourself to feel your emotions without judgment and gradually rebuilding your sense of trust and self-worth. Have you had the chance to process this with close friends or a therapist? Try journaling about your feelings and practicing self-compassion daily. Taking small steps forward, even when it’s tough, often leads to gradual emotional relief.
Hi silentpine, first, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Recovery from infidelity isn’t linear or consistent—it’s more like waves, as you’ve noticed. Some factors to consider:
- How long was your relationship, and how did things end? Was it sudden or with lots of unresolved questions?
- Are you still in contact with your ex, or is there ongoing drama?
- What kind of support system do you have (friends, therapy, etc.)?
For some, it’s a few months; for others, it’s a couple of years. Sometimes we hold onto self-blame, anger, or uncertainty about the future, which can make it linger. What have you found most difficult to move past—anger, trust, self-esteem?